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Wedding Dress Dilemma

Every little girl dreams of what her wedding dress will look like,adorable

but very few consider what size it will be. In an America where the average size is no longer a 6 and is now closer to a 16, many shops are growing to accommodate the “curvy” customers yet bridal stores seem to have fallen behind the times.

 

 

When I knew I had to start looking for bridal gowns I was terrified of not being able to fit in a gown. I knew I wanted to see with my own eyes what the dress would look like and not have to “imagine” it in my size. I don’t know if you have tried to imagine what something will look like 10 times bigger and fitted to your curves, but it is impossible! Trying to squeeze into this tiny bit of fabric that doesn’t budge when you try and tug it over your hips feels like defeat. You feel fat and upset when you are supposed to feel radiant.

 

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In order to avoid this overall feeling of despair, I researched bridal shops that catered to different sized women. Luckily, I found out one of the VERY few plus size bridal shops in the U.S was located right here in the Reading Bridal District. Belle Bridal carries every size dress in store from 0-33. Walking in to the store, you are welcomed and offered champagne. Beautiful dresses line the walls as consultants flit around helping brides find their perfect dress. There is a dress in every shape, size, and budget to meet a girl’s needs.

 

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I myself found my big day gown at Belle Bridal and never once did I feel ugly, fat, or defeated. Their staff made me feel like a beauty queen as they helped me into various dresses as I searched for “the one”. So, if you are looking for top notch customer service and don’t fit in a runway sized dress then Belle Bridal is the shop for you!

( This is not a photo of Belle Bridal Shop)

 

Happy Gown Shopping……..

Elegantly,

Robin Rager, Associate Planner                    Elegant Whims

 

 

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Groom & Mom

Almost every aspect of a wedding centers around the bride… but what about the groom? Welllllll, his big debut is twirling around his new bride followed closely by twirling around his mother on the dance floor. Trust me when I say that for most fellas this mother-son soiree is awkward. It is awkward because, not only do they hate dancing, but because the song choices are atrocious.  I don’t know if you’ve Googled mother son songs lately, but good lord someone help us!

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Not only are the songs old, but the lyrics also drone on and on about baby boys with scraped knees turning into grown handsome men. While the sentiment is adorable, the vocals and composition fall devastatingly short. To help our grooms, we have compiled a list of 10 non-traditional mother son songs for your big day. Hopefully, these help make it (slightly) less awkward because lets face it, even if the songs rock you still hate to dance!

 

  1. Simple Man- Lynard Skynard
  2. What a wonderful world- Louis Armstrong
  3. I hope you dance- LeAnn Womack
  4. Because you loved me- Celine Dion
  5. Child of Mine- Turley Richards
  6. Up and over the mountain- Iron & Wine
  7. I’ll be there- Mac Miller
  8. A song for mama- Boyz II Mend
  9. I turn to you- Christina Aguilera
  10. Never Alone- Lady Antebellum
  11. He gets that from me- Reba
  12. Arms wide open- Creed
  13. Don’t blink- Kenney Chesney

 

What song are you going to choose?  Let us know ……

Elegantly,

Robin Rager, Associate Planner                                                                                                             Elegant Whims

 

My Friend Can be the D.J. at our Wedding Right? They have an iPod…….

Wrong!!!!

Welcome back to the Wednesday Blog with Elegant Whims Tips & Trends from your Certified Wedding Planners, Patti & Melinda.     Today we are excited to introduce you to the fabulous D.J. Dayna.  We enjoyed a fun lunch interview a few weeks ago and learned about how she got started in the business, do’s and don’ts for our readers.

As Planners we cringe at the words, “We will be using our iPod for our Wedding Music”.  Trust us when we give you the reasons, that this is not a good idea.  It is your Wedding Day, you don’t want something to happen to the music during the ceremony or your first dance, and with that piece of advice, I turn it over to our capable intern, Meredith…..

Elegantly,

Patti & Melinda

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A couple weeks ago, Elegant Whims was lucky enough to interview a promenade DJ in the Cincinnati area: DJ Dayna. Go check out her website!

Dayna got her start in College while pursuing a BA in Mass Communications at Miami University (oxfrod). She had friends who were DJs and eventually started trying it out herself. She had her own radio show on the school station and thought that might be a good fit for a career – however the days of radio shows were on the decline and she was advised to not get stuck in that particular profession. She went on to be a local TV producer, but still DJ’d on the weekends.

She moved to LA to pursue journalism, still DJing on the weeekends where she got more into the wedding business. In fall of 2013, Dayna got offered a position to work as a celebrity DJ on cruises. She’s back from the cruise life for now, which gave us the perfect opportunity to talk to her about what we really want to know: Weddings.

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What was different about LA weddings compared to here?

No cheesiness. In LA they were strictly against anything like the chicken dance, or line dances, or anything like that. Absolutely no country music. At. All. There also wasn’t a whole lot of dance floor lighting, or excess lights or anything.

LA has also been doing photo booths for forever. A lot of DJs started offering that in their wedding packages before it was even a real thing back here.

How do you pick songs for a Wedding?

Based off of the requests from the Bride and Groom I know what I’m going to play. It will change according to the crowd of course, but I can usually get a good sense of what kind of crowd it will be just based off of the Bride and Grooms requests.

People always ask what our favorite part of weddings are – but what’s your LEAST favorite?

When people wait until the last minute for requests. It just makes my job easier, the earlier I get those must have/must not have songs from the couple.

Or when the bar is in a totally different room than the dance floor – it majorly cuts down on how much people dance!

What would be your advice to engaged couples? 

*Definitely look at least two to three different DJs before you decide. Compare and contrast, shop around, unless you just  KNOW at first sight that it’s the perfect DJ for you – make sure you look at your options.

*Bring Questions to the DJ!

You will feel so much more comfortable if you’re leading the discussion and getting a feel for who I am instead of me just asking you the regular questions and just giving you a spiel. That way we can both know if we’re right for each other.

*Any DJ you talk to, make sure you ask about Liability.

Have a do-not play list. Unless you don’t care if Cotten-Eyed-Joe plays at the request of your uncle, make sure you tell me what you don’t want to hear.

The biggest advice I can give you is don’t try to DJ yourself OR have a family friend do it. I know that cash is tight, but you will just have a less stressful day if you hire a DJ. You don’t need to worry about why your iPod is freezing up during your first dance!

Be sure to check out DJ Dayna’s article in the upcoming November Issue of Mobile Beats!

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Until next time,

Elegantly,

Meredith

Elegant Whims Intern

Merideth

You’re Engaged! Congratulations! Next Step Gift Registry

  I know what you are thinking, “One more item to add to the ever growing “To Do” list.

It’s true this is one more item that needs to be taken care of and the sooner the better.   Sit back a moment, this is a FUN task, but one that needs a plan.  This is a short list of how to have fun and register for awesome gifts to fill your new life together.

Brides: 10 Items Couples Forget to Register For—But Shouldn't | Wedding Registry:

  1. Choose your stores wisely.

Who makes up your guest list?  Will guest want to travel to a store or purchase online?

When choosing your two stores (make it easy for guest and you!), be certain you are aware of the return policy.  Online stores are great, but don’t you really want to see , feel, and touch the item to check it’s quality, before you add it to your home?

  1. Take stock of what you have.

If I walked into a store and registered without some idea of what I needed/wanted, the list would be very, very long!

Remember you are or may have already combined two households.  This is your chance to throw out that old crappy pizza pan and register for a brand new improved crust crisper pizza pan.

Make your list, include color choices, amounts, and sizes of the items you would like to register for.

What should the #groom add to the wedding registry?: 7 wedding registry tips every couple should know.. read this, gives some insight that you probably haven't thought of, especially #7.:

  1. Registry is not just for the Kitchen & Bath

I love the fact that couples have the opportunity to register for a ladder, garden tools, power tools, or any kind of tools.  This is an enormous help, especially if you are purchasing your first home

Outdoor grilling tools are an essential for every man who loves to cook! Check out our favorite groom gifts on our newest blog post! #DonnaMorgan #GroomGifts: My Toolbox: Great article on what tools to have on hand, plus links to tutorials & videos on how to use power tools!: Step ladder 4 tread - Now £79.50!!:

  1. Over Register

Remember you can always return items.   It may sound like a lot to register for twelve place settings, but take it from me, it isn’t.  (I have age on my side)  Those extra plates will come in handy one day.

Wedding Registry Tips She seriously has the best tips ever.: Every time I go to pull out my nice china, I kick myself. Because its not there. It never was. I have my great grandmother's floral patterned china which is perfect for Easter, but no wedding china of my own. That is the number one item I wish we'd registered for. 9 Things I Wish We'd Registered For via RainonaTinRoof.com: Macy's wedding registry items you didn't realize you needed! #macys #weddingregistry #weddingchicks http://www.weddingchicks.com/2014/04/22/wedding-registry/:

  1. Make it a Date Night

You have your list ready; your appointment at the store of your choice is scheduled.  Now make a dinner reservation.  Allow a few hours at the store to start registering, then go to dinner and relax.   You can always go back to add items if you do not finish.

Remember, This is a FUN task!

We plan, package and ship date nights right to you. All you have to do is open and enjoy!: Top 20 Stay-At-Home Date Night Ideas -- just for grown-ups! If you can't make it out of the house for a "date night" some fun at-home ideas to keep your relationship with your partner strong and connected.:

  1. Thank You

I see you rolling your eyes!   This can be another one of those tasks that can be made easy.  When you receive a gift, pull out that Thank You that is already addressed and write it. (HINT: When addressing your Wedding Invitations, address the Thank Yous as well).  Mail it; check it off the guest list, DONE!

4806_afabf3011276fe4dThank you Pink Fashionistas! This week's theme is pink pumps! Enjoy!!!: Thank You Cards with Envelopes / Wedding / Shower / Engagement / Set of 10 on Etsy, $14.95:

These are just a few helpful hints to making Registering for your Shower & Wedding Gifts FUN.

Enjoy and make room on your shelves for all your awesome gifts.

Thanks for joining us today, be sure to share with your friends.

Follow us on Twitter& instagram  @elegant_whims

Elegantly,

Patti & Meinda

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2016 Wedding Trends

It’s never too early to start looking into the new year’s trends! 

We are slowly but surely coming to the end of the year.

What this means for us is that most of the weddings we are planning are no longer taking place in the great year of 2015.

As Planners we always have to be several steps ahead with designs to offer our clients for their events.  We are coordinating Fall and Winter 2015 Weddings, but creating and planning for the 2016 season.  What’s cutting edge and will be the next trend.  Be a trend setter with your Wedding and Even design with the help of Elegant Whims.

Take it away Meredith…..

Elegantly,

Patti & Melinda

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So what can you expect pinterest and Bride Magazine to have in store for you in 2016?

We got you covered. 

According to planyourperfectwedding.com, weddings are will shortly become the lavish feasts they were in the past. As in, waay in the past. What do we mean by lavish?

Live Music.   We are seeing more and more live music for the Ceremony. But in 2016 we will see Live Reception Music grace the Reception venues, giving guest a wonderful evening of live music and dancing.

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Desserts & Food

Think  pudding cakes, Tiers of Cheese Wedding Cake, little tarts, and pies savory mini pies. Multicultural foods served on multi colored dinnerware. Different but wonderful flavor combinations, rubbed meats, food stations and a show stopping menu of  hor d’orver platters. Forget the lighted cake table, be a trend setter and light an appetizer station for a 2016 Wedding statement.

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The biggest design element is the instragramable (yes, it’s a word. I just made it up.) factor. Brides and designers have been more and more focused on the idea that whatever they choose will end up on the social media site. So everything is starting to be arranged so that the size and filters of Instagram will show it off to the best advantage.

Read more of their predictions here: http://www.planyourperfectwedding.com/article/receptions/wedding-trend-predictions-2016

What else is new?    Well it’s not new, but a continuation of this year’s trend. Vintage. 

Who doesn’t want an old world feeling to their big day? This year we saw it in the form of rustic, and shabby chic. in 2016 there will more of an emphasis on the elegant vintage whimsy.

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As always, make your wedding your own. Don’t be swayed by what’s the latest trend. Instead, be inspired by them!

Elegantly,

Meredith

Elegant Whims Intern

Merideth

Extraordinary Fall Weddings from Elegant Whims

Don’t  plan an Ordinary Fall Wedding,   Create an  EXTRAORDINARY Fall Wedding Day!

With Elegant Whims.

I have always loved “Fall” it is my favorite season.  The sound of rustling leaves on an evening walk.  The smell of  baked apples, applesauce and apple pies emanating from my kitchen.   Warm sweaters and Hot Apple Cider (yup I love Apples).  All these changes tell me it is time for fires in the fireplace and Football on Sunday afternoon, Monday, Thursday…..O.K.  That’s a different Blog.

As a Wedding and Event Planner, we are seeing an increase in Fall Weddings.  There is beauty is every season, and it is different for each couple.  At Elegant Whims we love the challenge of designing and thinking outside the box, making your wedding memorable and one that will stand out in your guest minds for years to come.

Enjoy our Blog this week, as always, a big thank you to Meredith for her extraordinary writing skills!

Elegantly,

Patti & Melinda

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Fall weddings are my favorite.

Actually anything having to do with Autumn is my favorite.

I’m a sucker for sweaters, and boots, and scarves, and apple cider, and bonfires and anything else that has to do with the season.

The danger with fall weddings?   Just as with summer weddings it is easy to pick, over used colors and themes.

Colors:

Overused: Orange/brown. Everyone loves the warm orange coupled with a crisp brown; but there are plenty of other options in the autumn color pallet.

Underused: Plumb, Green, dark mustard, and blue. Any combo of these four colors go well together and give your wedding the fresh crisp look you’re going for – without being reiterated at your guests next wedding.

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Themes/decorations:

Overused: Country Chic. Period. Barns are lovely, as are pumpkins, burlap, and leaves. Other options are available.

Underused: Flowers that bloom in the fall, but don’t aren’t in the “autumn colors” category necessarily, like  Amaranths. This will add a crazy pop of color into the usual browns and reds, making it eye catching and memorable.

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Amaranths Varieties are endless

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Different varieties of squash are also great options for an alternative to pumpkins.

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That’s my two cents for the week!

Have a great Wednesday,

Elegantly,

Meredith

Elegant Whims Intern

Merideth

Why I Wished I had hired a Wedding Planner

One Bride’s Horror Story and why she wished she had hired a Wedding Planner…………

Budget for a Planner for happy  Wedding  Memories….

It is back to school time for Meredith, so she has the week off.   But do not fear she is working on a fabulous blog for next week all about ……………………….   Come back next Wednesday and find out……

Enjoy this weeks blog and have an Elegant Day

We have all heard stories of mishaps and disasters at weddings.  After the fact, we laugh and say, “Oh what a great story that makes”.  At the time it is happing, all involved are stressed, frantic, crying, upset, you name it.  All in all it ruins the moment and unfortunately the mishaps are what they remember.

Here is one brides story……………………………………………………………………..

April 28, the wedding date.  Not the month I wanted to hold my wedding, April is traditionally called, by the weather service, the beginning of Tornado Season.

  • I was born the night a tornado took out a good part of the city I was born in.
  • Several times tornados have hit close to my home.
  • One April, while under a Tornado Warning, I opened the front door, (yes I know not a smart thing to do), and stared that mammoth whirlwind coming toward me.
  • Once while driving up I-75 North, I witnessed a Tornado going East behind me.

Do I need to go on?  I wanted to choose October for our Wedding Date, but Dad vetoed that, saying that as he always went Salmon fishing in October.   Summer is too hot.  Winter always has unpredictable weather, and as we had several out of town guest driving, that was out.

So April it was.

Good news, No Tornado on our Wedding Day, it chose to Rain.

I am an organized person.  I had my checklist, and was ready.  Everyone knew where to be and when.    When you have to depend on friends and family and not a professional, things go awry.

Like most, I had dreamed and planned this day since I received my first doll in a bridal gown.  I practiced how to walk down the aisle.  I envisioned the flower girl dropping rose petals to announce my entrance.  I heard Ava Maria being played as I looked into my husband’s eyes as we said, “I Do”.  Yes, I had it all planned out, I knew my vision inside and out, I had my checklist, everyone involved was advised of the plan.

April 28………. I woke up to rain.   I was determined not to let rain spoil my wedding day.  After all it wasn’t thundering and lighting, no Tornado Watches’ or Warnings, I could deal with a little drizzle.

I had chosen to have the bridesmaids dress at my home and have pictures taken there prior to the Wedding Ceremony.  That all went well.  It was relaxed and fun with lots of laughter.  It was a full house and we were all having a great time.

Pictures were finished so it was time for everyone to leave for the Ceremony.   My brother was in charge of taking the bridesmaids to the Church. My parent’s vehicle was large enough to seat all the bridesmaids. He would drop them at the church and return for Mom, Dad and Me.

I might mention at this point, I choose a Southern style dress with an enormous skirt with a very full crinoline slip.  I also might add that the only other cars at my house were SMALL cars.

Brother dear didn’t come back and didn’t come back; it was getting later and later.  My dad, (who is a stickler for being on time), said,” pick a car we are leaving NOW”.  So my mom “SHOVED” me and my dress into the back seat of my Camero.  You cannot image what a scene that was!  I couldn’t even see out the windows, all I saw was white lace of my beloved dress everywhere I looked.

Meanwhile at the Church, the priest told my fiancée, that if I didn’t get there soon, he would have to marry the maid of honor, because this wedding was taking place on time.  YEIKS!!!!!!!!!!!!

As we arrived at the Church, dad let mom and me out at the front door; he went to park the car.  As mom and I walked into the Foyer of the Church, we were shocked to be looking at our guests, who  were looking back at us.  The doors to the main Church were closed and the ushers were looking confused. 

I had a plan, we had a rehearsal, How could this be happening!!!

I ran into the ladies room, where the bridesmaids were gathered.  Of course there was a flurry of, “Where have you been?” and “What took so long?”    A friend that was taking care of the flowers and lighting the candles, came in to inform us the priest had decided we were not allowed to light the candles on the altar.  Somehow he failed to inform us of this fact in all of our previous meetings.

That was the straw that broke the camel’s back and the tears started flowing.  I excused myself and went into a stall.  A few minutes later, I walked out into an empty room. Where was everyone? Where was mom?  I opened the door still crying and saw my dad waiting for me.  He looked at me and didn’t know what to think as he saw the tears flowing down my face.   He asked me if I wanted to call it off and I said, “NO, I want my candles lit!”  He wasn’t sure what I was talking about so he took my hand gave me a kiss on the check and down the aisle we went.

The sad thing, at this point I was so upset, I don’t remember seeing the all important rose petals lining the path to my fiancée.

The ceremony went according to plan right up to the end.  The organist had not played “Ava Maria”; I was very clear in my plan that this was an important song to me.  I looked at my husband with a bewildered look, the priest asked if something was wrong and my husband said, “No”.

So much for hearing, ”Ava Maria” on my wedding day.

Off to the reception…………….

The reception venue looked beautiful.  The food was fantastic, the cake lovely and the band fantastic.  True to the rest of the day, two hours into the reception, half of the band members started to pack up and leave.  My mom was in a panic and I, once again was on the verge of tears.  Mom stopped one of the band members and he told her they had been filling in for the main band members, as they had a gig that didn’t finish in time for them to start playing at our reception.   REALLY!!!!!!!!!!

The other band members arrived and played to the end of the evening and were sure to search me out to find out who had their payment.

The Bridal Bouquet toss was fun except for the fact the photo of me throwing the bouquet looked like a Barbie arm.

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My new husband being 6’4 tossed the garter and it landed in the Chandelier.   I am looking around for someone from the venue to get a ladder and retrieve the garter…………………

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My husband and I slipped out as the last guests were leaving.  I am happy to report the rest of the evening went off without a hitch.  Except for the fact I came got sun poisoning, we had a wonderful honeymoon.

I thought I had it all under control. I had dreamed and envisioned that day so often I just knew I could do it all on my own.   I realize now I could have alleviated the stress and tears if I had hired a professional to handle the details that I thought I had under control.  A professional that would have know about the band and checked on the transportation.  A professional would have known what questions to ask.

I hope you enjoyed my story, thanks for reading.

I would like to introduce you to our Bride Blogger today.  She is someone I have know all my life.

The bride in this story is me, Patti Davis.

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                    April 28, 1979

My wedding is one of the reasons I wanted to become a Wedding Planner.  I never want to hear about a bride going through some of the mishaps I experienced.

Be sure to visit us at;

www.elegantwhims.com

Certified Wedding Planners

Elegantly,

Patti & Melinda

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